Developing Your Friendship with God

I am as close to God as I choose to be. Like any friendship, my relationship with God requires work. Just as a human relationship would die out if ignored, so my relationship with God will only improve with dedicated effort. It will not just happen by accident because it takes desire, time and energy. If you want a deeper connection with God you must learn to honestly share your feelings with him, trust him when he asks you to do something. learn to care about what He cares about, and desire His friendship more than anything else. Purpsoe Driven Life

God doesn’t expect you to be perfect. But he does insist on complete honesty.


The first building block of a deeper friendship with God is complete honesty – about your faults and your feelings. God doesn’t expect you to be perfect. But he does insist on complete honesty. Mathews 11:19. Geniuine friendship is built on disclosure. Bitterness is the greatest barrier to friendship with God. God listens to the passionate words of His friends; He is bored with predictable, pious cliches. To be God’s friend, you must be honest to God, sharing your true feeling, not what you think you ought to feel or say

Why would i want to be God’s friend if He allowed this. As so many people did in the bible tell God exactly How you feel. Job 17:17-21

Bitterness is the greatest barrier to friendship with God.

Purpose Driven Life


Every time you trust God’s wisdom. and do whatever He says, even when you don’t understand it you deepen you deepen your friendship with God. Jesus made it clear that obedience is a condition of intimacy with God. He said, “You are my friends if you do what I command”. We are friends with God, but we are not his equals. He is our loving leader, and we follow Him. We obey God, not out of duty of fear of compulsion, but because we love him and trust that he knows what si best for us. We want to follow Christ out of gratitude or all that he has done and continues to do for us, and the closer we follow him, the closer our friendship becomes. Because we have been forgiven and set free, we obey out of love and our obedience brings great joy. Jesus said, “I have loved you even as the Father has loved me. Remain in my love. When you obey me, you remain in my love, just as I obey my Father and remain in his love. I have told you this so that you will be filled with my joy. Yes, your joy will overflow!”

We are often challenges to do “great things” for God. Actually, God is more pleased when we do small things for him out of loving obedience. They may be unnoticed by others, but God notices them and considers them acts of worship. Great opportunities may come once in a lifetime, but small opportunities surround us every day. Even through such simple acts as telling the truth, being kind, and encouraging others we bring a smile to God’s face. God treasures simple acts of obedience more than our prayers, praise or offerings. The bible tells us, “What pleases the Lord more: burnt offerings and sacrifices or obedience to his voice? It is better to obey than to sacrifice. It is better to listen to God than to offer the fat of sheep. I Samuel 15:22NIV


This is what true friends do, they care what’s more important to the other person. The more you become God’s friend, the more you will care about the things He cares about, grieves over the things He grieves over, and rejoice over the things that bring pleasure to Him. Paul is the best example of this. God’s agenda was His agenda and God’s passion was his: “The thing that has me so upset is that i care about you so much this is the passion of God burning inside me. David felt the same way: “Passion for your house burns within me. so those who insult you, are also insulting me. What does God care about most? The redemption of His people. He wants all his lost children found. Thats the whole reason Jesu came to earth. The dearest thing to the heart of God is the death of His dear son. The second dearest thing is when His children share that news with others! To be a friend of God you must care about all the people around you whom God cares about. Friends of God tell their friend about God.

The more you become God’s friend, the more you will care about the things He care about.

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The Psalms are filled with examples of this desire. You must long for, crave, yearn, and hunger for God’s friendship. Jacob‘s passion for God’s blessing on his life was so intense that he wrestled in the dirt all night with God saying, “I will not let you go unless you bless me”. The amazing part about that story is God, who is all-powerful, let Jacob win! God isn’t offended when we wrestle with him, because wrestling requires personal contact and brings us close to him. It is also a passionate activity, and God loves it when we are passionate about him. The real truth is that you are as close to God as you choose to be. Intimate friendship with God is a choice not an accident. You must intentionally seek it. Do you really want it more than anything? What is it worth to you? Is it worth giving up other things? Is it worth the effort of developing the habits and skills required?

Pain is the fuel of passion it energizes us with an intensity to change that we don’t normally possess. C.S. Lewis said, “Pain is God’s megaphone”. “It is God’s way of arousing us from spiritual lethargy”. Your problems are not punishment, they are a wakeup call from a loving God. God is not mad at you; he’s mad about you, and he will do whatever it takes to bring you back into fellowship with him. But there is an easer way to reignite your passion for God: Start asking God to give it to you and keep on asking until you have it. Pray this throughout your day: Dear Jesus, more than anything else, I want to get to know you intimately. God told the captives in Babylon, when you get serious about finding me and want me more than anything else, I’ll make sure you won’t be disappointed.


There is nothing, absolutely nothing more important than developing a friendship with God. It is a relationship that will last forever. Paul told Timoth, “ Some of these people have missed the most important thing in life—they don’t know God. May God’s mercy be upon you”. Have you been missing out on the most important thing in life? You can do something about it starting now. Remember, it is your choice. You are as close to God as you choose to be.

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